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My Birthday Celebration
Venue: Chevrons VIOLET Function Room Level 3
Date: 30th April 2007 (Monday)
Time: 7pm onwards
Dress Code: Smart yet comfortable
Entry Proof: MY BIRTHDAY PRESENT! haha...
Buffet will start at 8pm on time.
There will be games as well. And of cos what u all enjoy most, Saboing Birthday Ger.
And my greatest birthday wish is to see ALL OF MY FRIENDS coming to my birthday.
- ANYTHING YOU ALL THINK THAT SUITS ME.
12:00 AM
fuck up management!
1:59 PM
been a long time since i heard his voice
been a long time since i stood beside him
been a long time since plucked his white hair
been a long time since i took pics with him
been a long time since i touched his hands
been a long time since i been nagged by him
been a long time since i ate his bought back chilli crab
been a long time since.........
my 21st birthday without him...
papa, i miss you so...
there's still a long way to go... =(
11:01 PM
i really hope everyone i had invited to turn up.
i hope everything will go well that day.
i am very excited about it.
all the brainstorming, about what to wear, games, people gathering together and singing happy birthday songs to me. so excited! and not forgetting my presents. hehe.. wonder got surprise ma... LOL
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thanks michelle for helping me arrange everything.
thanks to my lovely brother who gave ideas on what to do. MUACK MUACK
and thanks to emily bird and gang in advance for scarificing this coming sunday to help me prepare stuff for my birthday. a big kiss to u ppl as my graditude. MUACKSSSS
10:55 PM
things always happen when i least expected...
somehow... somehow... somehow...
forget it.
i am serious this time round. i wan my celebration to be an enjoyable one. fuck it if u aint coming. to think i helped u celebrate ur bday last year! you are no longer my friend, AMY LIOW!
nitez
10:54 PM
i am lazy la...
10:56 PM
celebrated junan's birthday earlier on and i just got home like half an hour ago. and i got to wake up at 6.45am. it will be hardworking of me if i can go work on time later.
should i start putting my wish list up? hmmmm. but i got no idea what i want... =(
2:25 AM
21st birthday coming soon... without my dad around...
but still i got my mum and my brother...
and all my good friends.
10:33 PM
relationships.
love hurts dun ya?
met up with meiyi earlier. and knew 2 new friends. chatted about many things. friends, family, bfs, etc etc. i love it when i can meet up with friends i hardly meet up with. so much topics to talk about.
i realised as time passed by, my topics with my friends changed. we talked about our future. though still childish at times, but we had mature in our thinking and the ways of doing things.
i'm glad i'm still able to contact with my friends after i graduated from school.
i hope this will go on forever... till the day i leave this world...
3:49 AM
everything will be fine.
we will be there for you.
you know who you are. =)
12:53 AM
been a week plus since i started working. i shall post a few pics of my own office desk.
messy right? but thats my job. LOL
dinner earlier on with emily, bird and peeps was fun and entertaining as usual. i love it when i hang out with them. coz the laughter of everyone's, allows me to forget about my tiredness.
i'm enrolling for my part time diploma soon. SIMM. 12 months $2586 inclusive of GST. hopefully i will make it this time. =)
PS: KNN bus auntie ask me change ezlink! to adult ezlink card!!! roarrrrssss
9:40 PM
been feeling tired these days after work.
i dun understand why some people dun have their own stand. why do they have to follow someone's footstep? like finding a job. u choose what you wanna work as and not what others are doing. you live for yourself and not for others? get what i mean?
i called his mum earlier. chatted. was great hearing her voice. somehow memories flooded back. are we still meant to be?
7:26 PM
“I was the other woman”
By Maggie Kim
I grew up watching those sleazy, made-for-TV movies whose storylines usually involved a home-wrecking hussy (usually bottle-blond) who unleashed havoc on a happy marriage with her cheap charms and gold-digging ways. As a Catholic-school-bred teenager, I couldn’t imagine what would drive someone to steal another woman’s man. So imagine my surprise when a scant decade later, I became one of those hot-to-trot hussies, involved in a scandalous love drama with no happy end in sight. The Other Woman holds a unique, nearly invisible place in society and when it comes to affairs, the blame, shame and scarlet letter are squarely placed on her shoulders. I don’t have much defense for my actions other than the naïveté — some would say, stupidity — of being a young woman who believed herself madly in love with the man of her dreams, who just happened to be married.In those TV movies, the wanton woman usually gets what’s coming to her, whether it’s a jail sentence or an overwrought gunfight in which she’s the loser. In real life, I can tell you that the end is possibly even more painful than most breakups. Unlike a rift with an actual boyfriend, you won’t get much sympathy for your shattered heart because if anyone knew of the relationship, he or she most likely disapproved, and there’s not even the solace of knowing that your ex is as miserable and alone as you are. Because you know he’s gone back to his home and his wife. Here are some other hard lessons you’ll learn if you date a man who’s spoken for.
Lesson #1: It’s about sex, not love
As romantic as a head-over-heels love affair can first seem, it ultimately devolves into tawdry and quick assignations during his lunch hour or as his post-work workout. He already has a relationship and simply doesn’t have the time to cultivate another one. “When you’re so rushed for time because he has to get home for dinner, there’s not much you can do together but have sex,” explains Sue C., 31, from New Jersey. “So he comes over, you have sex, talk for a bit and then he showers and goes back to his wife. Cuddling? As if.” And isn’t luxuriating in the post-sex afterglow one of the best parts about intimacy? Granted, affair sex is almost inherently hot because of its forbidden element, but once that wears off, you’re feeling alone and empty.
Lesson #2: Don’t call him, he’ll call you
“What I hated most about having an affair was that I couldn’t reach my lover when I wanted to,” gripes Katya G., 29, from New York City. “I couldn’t call his office because he didn’t want anyone there to know about me or have any suspicions and, of course, I didn’t even have his home number. And if he didn’t want to talk to me, all he had to do was turn off his cell phone. It drove me crazy that I’d have to wait for him to call me back when it was convenient for him.” I can sympathize with her problem since I went through the same thing. Even though I could reach my married man via cell, I didn’t call too frequently in case his wife was around. He’d usually ring me up for a brief chat when he stepped outside his apartment for a smoke. And those brief chats just don’t satisfy your need for emotional reassurance after yet another sex (and nothing but sex) encounter.
Lesson #3: Saturday night? Try Wednesday afternoon
Get used to staying in. It’s not a cliché that you’re “sneaking around” when you’re having an affair. There’s no such thing as a romantic dinner out or strolling hand-in-hand in the park together. You may be in love, but you certainly won’t be shouting it from the rooftops or even from any neighborhood bar. “We could never go out, especially on the weekends,” says Sue. “Obviously, Saturday night was date night for him and his wife, so there was no way that was happening. Mainly, he’d come over to my place sometime during the week and we’d maybe get a few hours to hang out together. Those were our dates.” For me, too, the only time we’d get to go out in public would be when his wife was out of town—and it was usually at a dive bar or hole-in-the-wall restaurant where there was no chance of us running into anyone we knew. The food was never that great, either.
Lesson #4: You’ll get plenty of alone time
Affairs are bad and everyone knows it, so when you start one, you become pretty selective when it comes to telling anyone about “your new boyfriend.” I remember telling a few close friends, and as hard as they tried to be supportive, I knew that they didn’t understand, were disappointed, or completely disapproved. So I went into secret mode and didn’t tell anyone where I’d be or what I was doing, in case I was with “him” or in case he was calling me to let me know he could come see me for a bit. It was very isolating to not be able to share something so huge, and emotionally painful, that was going on in my life with my friends. At the same time, I was so obsessed with when I’d be able to see him again that I freed up my schedule entirely, forgoing time with friends, so I could be available when he was. And that’s just sad.
Lesson #5: Get ready for gut-wrenching guilt
If you have any sort of conscience, the guilt of what you’re doing will gnaw away at you. As much as I tried to justify my affair as the price of true love, the presence of his wife soon became very concrete and unbearable. He’d have to call her sometimes from my place to explain away his lateness, and I’d go into the other room and feel seedy. I also spent an inordinate amount of time on Google, looking for pictures, history, anything about this woman who was my rival as well as the blameless victim in this whole mess. I think that’s what eventually led me to breaking off the affair. I couldn’t deal with the guilt of it and the harm I was causing another woman, whether she knew about it or not. I also knew he’d never leave her. And in hindsight, I don’t think I wanted him to—and that’s really the only positive thing I can say about the whole mess.
Maggie Kim is a reformed Other Woman. She’s also a rock musician (maggiekim.com) who got a lot of song material from her sordid past.
if you were ever in this situation, what will you do? have you ever come across this? hmmm..
i wonder how...
10:18 PM
i wondered how long had it been hiding there?
damn it.
Peep at me, i give u die! KNN
11:01 PM
my friend asked a dumb question in the cinema when the show was about to start.
friend: "what show are we watching?"
me: =.="
sometimes it great to have blur friends.
11:48 PM
ironed alot of clothings.
no much friends left.
dead.
2:09 PM
or am i thinking too much?
good friends are hard to come by i guess...
dun wanna tok about it.
some things are better left unsaid. i scare i might hurt people with my words.
6:54 AM
i got my own desk at work leh! so cool! haha
ok. i am tired.
nitez
9:04 PM
no feelings.
shopping yesterday. attended a birthday party with less than 10 people last night (becoz i was very late. LOL)
anyway, happy birthday my dear friend, Mei yi!
am i just being paranoid here or wat? just when i need help, no1's around...
4:30 PM
